Birth Parents, Who Are They?
The average birth mother ASI works with is somewhere between the ages of 22 and 41 and she is more than likely to already be a parent to one or more child(ren). As experienced parents, ASI has found, women who place children for adoption have a clear understanding of the time, the costs, and the emotional responsibility it takes to be an effective parent. It is also not uncommon for birth mothers who place to have severed ties with the father of their child, though this is not always the case because ASI has worked with several great birth fathers. Lastly, birth mothers love their children and put a lot of care and consideration into their plans for adoption. It is never a decision that they make lightly. The majority of birth mothers ASI has worked with are high school graduates, a few have not completed high school, and many (after placement) continue their educations.
Why Do Birth Mom's Choose Adoption?
ASI birth mothers are generally single - never married or divorced. Some birth mothers have supportive birth fathers, a few are married couples, a few are unmarried couples, some birth mothers do not know who the father of their child is, some have been abandoned by the birthfather after he becomes aware of the pregnancy or prior. Whatever the case ASIs' experience is most women who place a child for adoption would be good parents to the child they are carrying and are good parents to the children they have. When a birth mother chooses adoption she does so for a variety of sound reasons. Some of the reasons include but are not limited to: (mentioned already) not being in the position to parent due to financial or economic factors; not being able to parent another child; no support from the father of the child; no family support; severe legal problems and/or incarceration; not in an emotional place to be a parent; mental health and addiction problems; rape or date rape. ASI staff helps a birthmother sort through her personal reasons for adoption and assists her in developing a plan for adoption that fits her needs and the needs of her child.